Who is the boss of YOU?
Posted on | September 1, 2010 | No Comments
Chances are, sometime in your life you have heard a child say “You’re not the boss of ME!! I am”.
I’m not debating whether or not this is an appropriate comment, as it probably depends on the context. For me this comment raises an interesting question and that is, are you really the boss of you? Your first response is probably similar to what mine was. Which is, of course I’m the boss of Me. Who else would be? But there’s more to it than that. The truth is, most of us let our urges, impulses and emotions run our life a little more than we should. I believe that being the boss of Me means that the very best of who I am is in control, the part of Me that is patient, compassionate, disciplined. This is easier in theory than it is in reality but with a little work I think we can all improve.
I believe the easiest way to gain better control of your life is to mindfully work on your self-discipline. Self-discipline is merely doing what you should do, regardless of if you want to do it or not.
I once heard a story of a gentleman who, upon finally realizing that he wasn’t in control of his life, decided to do an experiment. He committed to getting up every morning at 4 AM for one year to go out in his backyard to move a pile of rocks from one place to the other. The next day he would get up again and move the rocks back to their original location. The point of this exercise was to try to develop a higher level of self-discipline. His reasoning was that if he could get himself to follow through with this somewhat meaningless and difficult exercise then he could get himself to do just about anything.
Well, in case you’re wondering, the experiment was a success. At the end of the year this man’s level of discipline and the level of control that he had over his life had increased tenfold.
So the question I have for you and I is….. what (metaphorically speaking) is your pile of rocks? What personal discipline can you practice that will help you, the best you, be in control of your life? Once you decide what it is, commit to it. I’m sure you will love the results.
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Mr. Kovar has been teaching Martial Arts professionally since 1978. Dave is a multi-style Black Belt who has been committed to ever-improving his Martial Arts skills. He updates this blog to provide tips and insights to martial arts instructors around the country. To learn more, click here.
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